Mirror, Mirror

Mirror, Mirror

Michelle Morkert burnout, community, Croatia, decisions, feminism, gender, gender norms, gender roles, healthy living, self-care

I’ve got a crazy idea. . .

I’m not sure this is realistic, but. . .

What if. . .

I’ve always wanted to. . .

Don’t you cherish conversations about aspirational ideas with special people who respond positively and authentically?   

I love that idea!  

What if…?

Of course you could do that!

Emilie Aries, founder of BossedUp and author of a book by the same title teaches about “mirror theory”.  She states that it’s healthy for us to find the people who are mirrors  to our best selves. In other words, find those people who would be willing to help us suspend the “how” so that we can think about the possible.  

Aries encourages her clients to ask for what we need from the people in our lives as part of our planning for the future.  I was a guest trainer at one of her boot camps this summer where I heard her comment that, “We can go it alone.  But… why?”  

I stopped in my tracks.  Why indeed?  

Why go it alone?  

Why burnout?  

Why work harder instead of smarter?  

Why not practice self-care?  

Why work at an unhealthy and unsustainable pace for the change we hope to see in the world?  

Why not feel passion for one’s work?

Why go it alone?

Community.  Allowing the dizzying rush of life can deflect from remembering that community can make all the difference.  

 Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has. – Margaret Mead