Addicted to catastrophizing? I get it… I’ve been addicted to catastrophizing for most of my life. I would assume the worst case scenario and feel relief when it didn’t happen. I loved the relief, but hated the pain that I’d put myself through for hours, days, and sometimes even weeks before the dreaded moment when things could decline so rapidly …
I’ve been following Imposter Syndrome research at a distance for decades. It first attracted me because it helped me make sense of what I was experiencing in the academe. I felt less alone when I read the statistics and learned that many high achieving women felt like frauds while still excelling and making the world a more equitable place. The …
Doesn’t sound right, does it? Wouldn’t you think that the more success a person achieves, the more confident they would feel? It’s often not the case and here’s why. We do not create evidence in our brains that we can trust ourselves when we make excuses for our achievements. Here are a few examples that might sound familiar to you. …
…because it will. “Leave safety behind. Put your body on the line. Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind – even if your voice shakes. When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say.” -Maggie Kuhn, Founder of Gray Panthers aging activist and reformer I’ve been thinking lately about the power …
How many names on this partial list do you remember? Annapolis – 2018 Atlanta – 2021 Aurora – 2012 Boulder – 2021 Charleston – 2015 Columbine – 1999 Dayton – 2019 Downtown Dallas – 2017 El Paso – 2019 Ft. Lauderdale Airport – 2017 Gilroy – 2019 Parkland – 2018 Pulse Nightclub – 2016 Las Vegas -2017 Midland & Odessa …
I used to feel ashamed about so many aspects of my life that I forgot myself and started to seek approval for my hobbies, clothing preferences, research and parenting. I forgot that it was an option to decide for myself. Over time, I slowly hid the qualities that made me uniquely me. They weren’t gone though. They were just muted. …
I am a planner and a dreamer. I love the dopamine hit I get from making an elaborate plan to detox with a cleanse, adjust my business model, create a travel itinerary, make a research goal that includes an unrealistic amount of reading or start a new scheduling plan. I imagine it and I lay it all out …
I DECIDED to take the last week to rest and that’s exactly what happened. I’ve never rested like this because I always felt too guilty, at least that’s what my inner critic said. I thought that I “shouldn’t” rest. I thought that I didn’t deserve to rest. I thought that working myself to the point of exhaustion meant that I …
Lately I’ve been thinking about what a personal revolution looks like in my life. My revolution is fueled by love and feminism, coaching and teaching, courage and humor, empowerment and possibility – mine and yours. Imagine what your life will feel like when you shed the fear that keeps you stuck, when you take the risk to live your …
Feminist hear the ABCD’s of gender slurs regularly. BIPOC feminists experience the most vile threats. As a white feminist, my race privilege insulates me. Haters on social media who would not recognize me if we were standing in line next to one another at Starbucks ordering identical drinks, called me dangerous, immoral and radical. They called me feminist, …