The other night, I attended an event sponsored by my friend Kristin Crockett. She asked her audience repeatedly, “what do you want?” As a courage coach, she loves this question. I do too. It is a life changing one and it’s a question that I ask my clients (and myself) often. It can be difficult to answer when …
Audrey Holst is one of my Covid era friends and each one of our conversations is a gift that reminds me of the wildly magical ways that humans connect in even the most challenging of times. I’ve admired Audrey’s work for a long time and I know that you will too. I feel grateful to share this …
Beauty was the sign. Today’s blog is more of a reflection than an analysis, so I’ll make it short. Beauty was the sign that I’d moved out of survival mode. It wasn’t so much the beauty itself as it was my ability to experience the beauty, to notice it so that I could lean into …
I grew up in a small farm town surrounded by corn, cows, and conservative churches. This might surprise you, but it’s true. You know what else was true? Father’s Day sucked for me as a child because I did not have a father in this community where the community and family machinations depended on rigid …
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I am thrilled to welcome Gregg-Brooke Koleno to The Trailblazer conversation this week. If you’ve been following the newsletter for a while, you know how much I nerd out over trailblazers. You also know that I value integrity and courage. Gregg embodies all of these traits and many more. She is a friend and a …
Dr. Marsha Linehan, neuroscientist and founder of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) said that “Emotions love themselves. They perpetuate themselves. Mood creates momentum.” For decades, she examined the relationship between feelings, actions, and thoughts. Here’s what Dr. Linehan means when she said that mood creates momentum. We stew in anger, create in liberation, hide in fear, expand …
In 1972, Judy (Syfers) Brady wrote a satirical article for the fledgling Ms. Magazine entitled, I Want a Wife. I remember reading this piece while in my doctoral program and finding it humorous to imagine a trailblazing woman wanting a disempowered wife. I also found it sad because so many people believed that those stereotypes were …
If you’ve been following my month in Croatia on LinkedIn, you read my three-part reflection about my bus adventures. I’ve been traveling by bus in Croatia for nearly ten years and you would think that I would have mastered it by now, right? Not even close. Two weeks ago, while sitting in a suffocatingly smoky …
Because trailblazers create new methods by disrupting old ones, you will face resistance at some point in your journey. People form all sorts of opinions about the changes you want to make, the way you make them, and the simple reality of you taking up space. Come on. You’re rocking the boat, and some folks …
Last week, I visited the town of Samobor. It is located 25 km west of Zagreb which lies on the eastern part of the Samoborsko gorje Hill Range along the Gradna River. I wanted to visit Samobor because it is the home of the famous desert called kremšnita. For years I’ve wanted to eat the custard dessert …
