Are you too busy to pee?

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You’re not alone. I can’t count how many smart, accomplished women like you (and me) race to the bathroom between tasks.  We work and work.  We wait and wait.  We ignore and ignore.  And then we sprint casually to the bathroom hoping that no one will notice our walk-run. Here’s what’s going on with all this racing woman phenomenon. We’ve …

I changed my last name.

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If you’ve been following my blog, you know that I’ve been diving deeply into the way that the patriarchy uses shame to keep folks in line.  The norms and unquestioned traditions that we follow for no other reason than “that’s the way it’s always been” are often rigid patriarchal expectations incognito.  Try to shift that norm and see what happens.  …

The door is now closed.

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I used to feel like a repository of ideas that emerged from societal norms, people in my communities,  people outside my communities (strangers at the grocery store), and my own patriarchal conditioning.  It was like a revolving door of thoughts that streamed into my world and I tried to entertain them all.  I felt like I had to engage with …

The Great Gendered Disappearing Act

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I’ve been thinking about the concept of visibility lately and what it means for me to be visible in my own life.  Society often teaches humans socialized as women to stay small both physically and emotionally.  We’re supposed to lower our voices, lose weight, and smile.  We follow the rules that we didn’t create and risk ostracization, ridicule, or some …

How to speak when the patriarchy tells you to stay quiet.

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Sometimes I notice that my throat closes up when I am about to take an action that breaks through some of the gender norms that I learned as a child.  This physical reactions still happens today years after I left the town where I was raised, stopped following the religious denomination that preached fire and brimstone doctrine, earned a Ph.D …

Visible in 2022

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I have been reading Dr. Valerie Rein’s book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder and recently read a section where she stated that women often wear a sheath of invisibility to protect themselves which simultaneously harms them.  For example, it’s risky for women to walk around this world fitting into standardized beauty expectations.  It’s dangerous for the patriarchy to consider women attractive because …

Disrupt your patriarchy-fueled creativity stagnation cycle today.

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I remember when I couldn’t write even when I had a brilliant idea.  I used to lament the times when I fell in love with a book, but wouldn’t finish it.  I’d feel too distracted.  My “to-do” list would magically pop into my brain.  Then I’d feel guilty and jump into something “productive.”  That was my patriarchy-fueled creativity stagnation cycle.  …

The cure for feminist laryngitis

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Feminist laryngitis can be a slow process of self-censorship as a form of survival in a patriarchal world.  It can happen over time when we stay quiet even when we want to speak up. It can emerge we apologize for taking up space.  It can take hold when we try to make our feminism feel warm & fuzzy so that the …

Patriarchy is one of our oldest shame teachers.

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Shame is feeling bad about ourselves.  It’s not about an action.  That’s guilt.  Shame is about US and our inherent value.  Shame tries to convince us that we’re flawed humans.  The messages that we receive throughout our lives, especially from the patriarchy, teach us that we are unworthy because of our sex assignment at birth, gender identity and sexuality. Shame entices …

Constraint is another way to say “yes.”

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“Constraint” is a gift of intention, freedom, and calm. I recently pressed “pause” on three important activities in my weekly schedule.  Here’s why.   Like you, my life operates in seasons and sometimes I want to slow down the pace to make space for new focus and intention.  I practice constraint to say no for the purpose of creating more …