How many names on this partial list do you remember? Annapolis – 2018 Atlanta – 2021 Aurora – 2012 Boulder – 2021 Charleston – 2015 Columbine – 1999 Dayton – 2019 Downtown Dallas – 2017 El Paso – 2019 Ft. Lauderdale Airport – 2017 Gilroy – 2019 Parkland – 2018 Pulse Nightclub – 2016 Las …
I used to feel ashamed about so many aspects of my life that I forgot myself and started to seek approval for my hobbies, clothing preferences, research and parenting. I forgot that it was an option to decide for myself. Over time, I slowly hid the qualities that made me uniquely me. They weren’t gone …
I am a planner and a dreamer. I love the dopamine hit I get from making an elaborate plan to detox with a cleanse, adjust my business model, create a travel itinerary, make a research goal that includes an unrealistic amount of reading or start a new scheduling plan. I imagine it and …
I DECIDED to take the last week to rest and that’s exactly what happened. I’ve never rested like this because I always felt too guilty, at least that’s what my inner critic said. I thought that I “shouldn’t” rest. I thought that I didn’t deserve to rest. I thought that working myself to the point …
Lately I’ve been thinking about what a personal revolution looks like in my life. My revolution is fueled by love and feminism, coaching and teaching, courage and humor, empowerment and possibility – mine and yours. Imagine what your life will feel like when you shed the fear that keeps you stuck, when you take …
Feminist hear the ABCD’s of gender slurs regularly. BIPOC feminists experience the most vile threats. As a white feminist, my race privilege insulates me. Haters on social media who would not recognize me if we were standing in line next to one another at Starbucks ordering identical drinks, called me dangerous, immoral and radical. …
I’m not going to meet white supremacy culture in the middle either. In fact, I’m coming for both of them. Here’s how. I coach women who refuse to tiptoe around power structures and their fragile leaders. I coach women who recognize that imposter syndrome is a toxic effect of patriarchy. I coach women who …
This isn’t about your grades or your GPA. What I mean is that I learned to be the “best” student so that I could survive. I learned to be the “best” student so that I could gain credentials that meant something in the world. I learned to be the “best” student so that I could …
I thought that I needed to wait for “something” to happen before I could be free. I told myself to work hard, be perfect (good luck with that!) and try to exceed the expectations of each situation. I told myself to wait until: I left a toxic workplace I finished my dissertation and publish my …
I used to tell myself that I was “just” an overachiever who was hardwired to work hard. None of that was true. None of it was natural. None of it was healthy. I worked myself to the point of exhaustion to be perfect so that I could feel good about myself. The problem was that …
