self-care

Fire & brimstone level fear

I used to feel ashamed about so many aspects of my life that I forgot myself and started to seek approval for my hobbies, clothing preferences, research and parenting. I forgot that it was an option to decide for myself. Over time, I slowly hid the qualities that made me uniquely me. They weren’t gone …

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Chasing “tomorrow” used to fuel my perfection.

I am a planner and a dreamer.   I love the dopamine hit I get from making an elaborate plan to detox with a cleanse, adjust my business model, create a travel itinerary, make a research goal that includes an unrealistic amount of reading or start a new scheduling plan.   I imagine it and …

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You get to DECIDE

I DECIDED to take the last week to rest and that’s exactly what happened.  I’ve never rested like this because I always felt too guilty, at least that’s what my inner critic said.  I thought that I “shouldn’t” rest.  I thought that I didn’t deserve to rest.  I thought that working myself to the point …

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“Ungodly Matriarchy”

Feminist hear the ABCD’s of gender slurs regularly.  BIPOC feminists experience the most vile threats.  As a white feminist, my race privilege insulates me.   Haters on social media who would not recognize me if we were standing in line next to one another at Starbucks ordering identical drinks, called me dangerous, immoral and radical. …

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Curiosity killed the cat, but. . .

“Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back.”  That’s the saying, right?  I’m not sure what to make of the sentiment when we add the rejoinder.  Perhaps it has something to do with the mythical nine lives of cats.  They take risks because they can.  Maybe…  As a human without the benefits of nine …

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Foot

The Secret to Self-Care

Yep!  That’s my foot.  And, it’s my daily reminder about brain power and self-care. Popularized definitions of self-care are gendered.  There’s no doubt about it, right?!  U.S. society convinces women (which women?) and men (which men?) to practice self-care through consumption of gendered products and experiences designed to help us overcome burnout.  But, the only …

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