decisions

Fire & brimstone level fear

I used to feel ashamed about so many aspects of my life that I forgot myself and started to seek approval for my hobbies, clothing preferences, research and parenting. I forgot that it was an option to decide for myself. Over time, I slowly hid the qualities that made me uniquely me. They weren’t gone …

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Chasing “tomorrow” used to fuel my perfection.

I am a planner and a dreamer.   I love the dopamine hit I get from making an elaborate plan to detox with a cleanse, adjust my business model, create a travel itinerary, make a research goal that includes an unrealistic amount of reading or start a new scheduling plan.   I imagine it and …

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You get to DECIDE

I DECIDED to take the last week to rest and that’s exactly what happened.  I’ve never rested like this because I always felt too guilty, at least that’s what my inner critic said.  I thought that I “shouldn’t” rest.  I thought that I didn’t deserve to rest.  I thought that working myself to the point …

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I’m not going to meet misogyny in the middle.

I’m not going to meet white supremacy culture in the middle either.   In fact, I’m coming for both of them.  Here’s how. I coach women who  refuse to tiptoe around power structures and their fragile leaders.  I coach women who recognize that imposter syndrome is a toxic effect of patriarchy.  I coach women who …

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Liberation!

Liberation!

I thought that I needed to wait for “something” to happen before I could be free.  I told myself to work hard, be perfect (good luck with that!) and try to exceed the expectations of each situation. I told myself to wait until: I left a toxic workplace I finished my dissertation and publish my …

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